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I count my cancer as a blessing. In February 2012, I joined the Steinger & Iscoe family, six months later I was diagnosed with leukemia (August of 2012). Up until then, and for about a year after, I had been known to work from early to late, weekends, and holidays. But, as much as I tried to deny and ignore it, leukemia caught up to me in October 2013. At that point I was forced to take medical leave for treatments and chemotherapy. Having cancer has changed and taught me a lot. Here are 3 big lessons I have received from my cancer experience. I am sure I will learn a lot more.
One Human Family - I have always fought on behalf of people who are injured or accused by corporations or governments. Before cancer, I took these battles personally. At times things would get very heated and I would lose perspective. I would forget that my adversaries are moms, dads, sons and daughters. However, upon learning about my situation, my adversaries sent beautiful get-well wishes. I was touched and changed by this experience. These folks, misguided as they may be, are part of my human family. Now I feel a deep connection with them as people. And I feel compelled to appreciate everyone, including my adversaries as people. I want to honor their human dignity in a way I would not likely have considered in my pre-cancer life.
Extended Family - You don’t hear lawyers talk a lot about love. You especially don’t hear them talk about love with regard to their firm, co-workers and colleagues. However, I have learned that it’s okay to love beyond my home, my family and long-time friends. I have learned that love is a spiritual reality and it expands my true family endlessly. Michael Steinger's & Gary Iscoe's compassion and support for me & my family have been boundless. Michael and Gary and our entire SIG family have sent so many encouraging cards, emails and texts. Often they arrive when I was laying down just waiting for time to pass. I learned that regardless of when they are sent, get well wishes miraculously always arrive at exactly the right time.
Busy Family Perspective – During medical leave, I learned that my family is busy! My years of long work weeks blinded me. While on leave, I rode with Jen, and our 3 kids all over creation for school, piano lessons, singing lessons, gymnastics, boxing and swim team practices. I did help Jen avoid several hundred crashes. Ungratefully, she noted that she has done this for 17 years without any wrecks. I am certain that divine providence put me in the family bus at just the right time. Apparently out of gratitude, Jen prayed, “Thank God you are riding with us!” Then she added a special prayer for my quick recovery & return to work. In all seriousness, my family and I enjoyed the additional time we had together. My cancer experience taught me how much we need each other for our daily triumphs & trials. Sharing our daily lives is so important. I gained a greater admiration for each of my children – their struggles, their work ethic, their talent. Emma, Anne Marie and Nathan, you all have made me a very, thankful, happy and lucky dad. I may regret putting this in writing as it may be used against me, but I also now have a greater appreciation for Jen's intelligence, strength, creativity, beauty, & drive. Cancer has changed my priorities. Being involved in my family's days is priority number one. Cancer and my family's compassion gave me perspective. They taught me that being a compassionate, peaceful, loving, & honorable husband, daddy, & friend, are so much more important than working longer hours with the hopes of earning more money, winning more cases and chasing materialistic dreams.
Cancer's lessons are true blessings. And it's rewarding to count them. However, I am one of the fortunate survivors. I feel that God blessed me with a great employer. Michael Steinger and Gary Iscoe make it their priority to treat us as family. They make sure we have the best benefits. So when Professor Cancer comes knocking, we have a chance to respond with dignity and hope. During my cancer experience I have traveled to M.D.. Anderson many times. I have sat in many waiting rooms in hospitals and doctors’ offices. I have sat in “chemo-rooms” with my cancer sisters and brothers. I know that many do not have great benefits or any benefits at all. And many people and their families facing cancer do not have much hope.
The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society has been working very hard for a very long time to help these families and to give them hope. This is why I am asking you to join me to help The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society to help them. Your donation will go to help families facing the challenges of cancer. Seventy eight cents of every dollar donated funds lifesaving research, patient aid, services and support.
All donations are greatly appreciated and are tax deductible. They'll not only support LLS research but patient services, advocacy, public and professional education, and community services as well.
On behalf of blood cancer patients everywhere I thank you for your support!
Together we are strong. I urge you to help.
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